ABC’s Of Staying Healthy

ABC’s Of Staying Healthy

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My mom told me that I became familiar with letters at such an early age. A.B.C. — these were the first few letters that I was able to utter. By the time I was two years old, my mom said that I can recite the whole alphabet from A-Z. I think when you really do so much as to remember things and you continue to think them thru, they stay with you for a very long time and seldom you forget.

Staying healthy requires a lot of thinking and self reflection to be successful. With a longer life expectancy of human beings as compared to pre-modern age, people have been more vigilant to think about and create ways to even extend the lives of everyone existing. Numerous mnemonics and acronyms have been developed as well by nutritionists and scientists to help people have a guide on how to stay healthy. One of these would be the ABC’s of staying healthy, a very simple, yet effective way of adding to the long list of patterns to keep healthy.

A Is For Abstinence

“A” stands for abstinence. Most probably many would already be thinking that this seems like the same ABC tip for responsible sex. Though the keywords used in the ABC’s of staying healthy are similar except for the last one, the ideas are completely in a different context as this would specifically target more of a person’s lifestyle in everyday living.

Abstinence should be practiced by the person in declining the things that would not make him healthy in the process. Unless it is required such as a career that would limit the choice to either quit the job or to counter the effects with good health practices, abstinence on a great level is required of the person should he wish to start staying healthy and maintain being healthy. Abstinence should be the basis of any individual to serve as a disciplinary concept. Without the discipline to know when to say no, it would prove difficult to stay away from the things that people have learned to love.

B Is For Be Faithful

“B” stands for “Be Faithful”. Being faithful is being able to hold out and maintain focus on your objective of staying healthy. It does not mean that you totally become a no-nonsense robot who only distinguishes a black from white, but being lenient is a risky thing to inculcate. Though it is not really to bend the rules from time to time because of valid reasons, it may develop into a nasty habit of having an excuse for every single choice that should have been for staying healthy.

C Is For Calisthenics

Calisthenics or exercise is and has always been part of any healthy program designed for health conscious and health seekers alike. Calisthenics does not necessarily mean the rigorous training that one sees in advertisements and magazines. Those are for bodybuilders who would want to reshape their bodies into hard sculptured specimens of humanity. Calisthenics are simple activities which would allow one’s self to move about and permit the proper flow of blood to the different parts of the body for optimal oxygenation of the cells.

Calisthenics should be done everyday for at least thirty to forty-five minutes which includes mainly aerobic exercise. Not only does daily calisthenics improve the cardiovascular flow of the body, it also adds up to the amount of calories to be burned for the day to maintain the desired body weight and fitness level.

The ABC’s of staying healthy is a very elementary concept for anyone to grasp should they wish to seek a better health state or maintain an already good one. It is a personal choice as it is a personal endeavor. The extent of its success lies on the amount of effort that the individual puts in each letter of this simple mnemonic.

Paolo is your regular 8 to 5pm work guy who loves to travel and plays sports once in a while to keep up with his work-life balance. He always bring with him his Oleia Topical oil wherever, whenever.

My Baby Fell Off The Bed!

My Baby Fell Off The Bed!

“Blag!”… ” ungaaaaaaaahhh!!!!” next thing I know I found my 7-month old baby on the bedroom floor. My baby fell off the bed! She fell from our high-mattress bed. I felt heartbroken as I picked her up from our wooden floor. Though she stopped crying after she felt she was  already in my arms, the guilt in my heart didn’t stop. Why did I miss her tonight? Why did I fall asleep not securing my co-sleeper? Why did I let her fall? It was 1:30am and happened in a split second after I stepped on dreamland. I should’ve not fallen asleep on the first hand. But I did, probably because I was too tired.

This was not the first time I experienced a child falling from the bed. My first and second also fell from the bed when they were around 6-9 months, not just once, but more than twice and everytime it happens, I feel terrible. It is usually the time when they are learning to crawl and what others refer to as “kalikutan” days of a baby. But this time, with my youngest, even though I knew that it can also happen, I admit that I became complacent. Maybe because she is well behaved (she rarely cries!) compared to my first two children when they were of the same stage.

“Wow.. what kind of a mother is she? 3 kids and still not learning? Or maybe she doesn’t care at all.”

These might be your thoughts right now as you read this blog and I totally understand. I admit it’s my fault, and I swear, I feel I’m the worst parent ever every time it happens. My inner conscience shouts to me the same thoughts. But I can’t linger too much on the situation. I have to relieve my baby’s pain rather feed my own with guilt. I have to forgive myself and move on.

Miraculously, they are always okay, and so normal after a fall like as if nothing happened.

Thank you Lord.

Probably guardian angels are real, if moms can’t catch them, they will. But hey, we can’t just rely on them all the time and not to be careful at all (That’s one lesson I learned). We should also be cautious and do all possible ways to protect our kids from these kinds of situations.

As a mom who wants to keep my kids close to me most of the time possible and because of these many instances that I experience a baby falling from the bed, I researched how I can prevent these from happening again. If you are like me who likes to keep the family bed, here are a few ways you can do to prevent your child from falling out of bed, or at least make it less traumatic if they do:

  • Start by removing the bed frame and setting the mattress on the floor. This lessens the distance that your child might fall if they roll off the edge. If you have a footboard or headboard, remove it.
  • Push the head of the mattress against the wall, and make sure all bedside tables are far enough away from the bed that your child can’t get stuck between the table and the mattress.
  • Always place the child on his or her back to sleep, and keep pillows, blankets and other soft materials away from the child as they sleep to avoid the risk of sudden infant death syndrome.
  • When your child is old enough, make sure they know how to get down from the bed safely–by sliding off the bed on their belly–never by jumping off the mattress.

Sometimes, no matter how careful we are, it might happen one day. If that happens, stay calm. Do an immediate check for any injuries and observe your baby very carefully for at least 24 hours after the fall. If your baby acts perfectly normal after a fall, you might be in the clear. If you are worried and want to get the baby checked out, by all means, do so.

In these cases, I also keep Oleia Topical Oil at hand to relieve pain and inflammation fast. This should always be in your first aid kit. It is all natural and very safe to use even in babies. I applied this immediately to my baby after she fell from the bed. It calmed her right away and even gave her a goodnight sleep after.


About The Author

Andrea is a full time home maker. When she is not busy taking care of her husband and kids, she goes out giving financial management talks. She is a proud breastfeeding mom for four years running and an avid Oleia Topical Oil user.

How to Properly Take Care of Your Wife After Giving Birth

How to Properly Take Care of Your Wife After Giving Birth

Caring for your Wife 101 – How to Properly Take Care of

Your Wife After Giving Birth

” I take you to be my wife

To have and to hold

From this day forward

For better or for worse

For richer, for poorer

In sickness and in health

Until death do us part. “

As men, this is the vow we take when we give ourselves to our partner on the day of marriage. It is a sacred vow that
tells not only the witnesses but God that we will do our best to take care of our wives as humanly as possible.

But how does this really apply in everyday life? Today, we are going to look at a very practical example of how us as men can take
care of our wives. And that is when the time comes that they give birth to our children. While this seems obvious, a lot of men frankly do not have an idea on how to take care of their wife after giving birth. We wrongly assume that it is outside of our control and that’s why we miss a very wonderful opportunity to show our partners how much we love them.

Your wife needs you

Yes, she does, both physically and emotionally. After giving birth to the baby, our wives don’t really rest at all. They take care of our children 24/7 and that pressure is very demanding. Add this to the fact that postpartum depression can hit them hard especially if they spend time alone.

The Love Bank

Have you ever heard of this concept? This idea has been shared many times by different authors and counselors. The basic idea is that every one of us creates in our heart a love account to every person that matters to us. Everything being said and done to us by that person either marks a deposit or a withdrawal. The idea is that the bank should be loaded for us to have a healthy relationship with another person.

Now to use that illustration, our wives withdraws from their account every single day to give out to their babies. When they feed them, when they bathe them, when they play with them – moms withdraw from their own accounts. The only way to replenish that is to be given the same kind of nurturing.

You cannot give what you do not have

If we want our wives to give our best to our kids, we must shower them also with the love they need. Have you filled up her love bank?



Ways to fill the love bank

Filling the love bank doesn’t always have to be mushy. Most of the time it’s practical. Here are some of the ways you can help your wife feel loved during this important period of her life:

  1. Make sure she is well fed – This is especially true if your partner is breastfeeding. She needs to be heathy and preparing meals will be a big task for her in this time of her life. Make sure that she has food and water. When she sits, ask her if she wants to have a snack while feeding the baby.
  2. Appreciate her efforts – Always say thank you and I am proud of you. Too many moms feel that they are underappreciated for what they do and saying those words will mean a lot to them.
  3. Share the labor – this is the principle, whoever stays at home takes care of the baby. But if both parents are home, they both should take care of the baby. Even after a hard day’s work – offer to help in some chores for the baby. Not only that it will help her tremendously, but it will also help you connect with your baby.
  4. Massage her – As a dad with a breastfeeding wife, I realized the heavy burden that breastfeeding can do to our wives back. Offer to massage her instead of sending her off to a massage parlor. It’s more intimate, more caring and more personal. Tip: Use Oleia Topical Oil with Chamomile Scent it will help her relax even more.
  5. Be a man – What do I mean? Especially to new fathers, we need to know that this time is very sensitive and we need to be there with our partners. Do not go out for drinks and leave your wife alone.


A happy wife is a happy life. Be her shield, her comfort and her true knight in shining armor.




About The Author

Manuel is a guy who loves books. He enjoys reading and does it whenever he can. If he’s not reading, he spends time with his family and also ministers to teenagers in a local church. He does public speaking and talks about issues concerning the youth and young professionals. An Oleia topical oil user and content contributor.

Mom’s Extra Sweet Cereals Bowl

Mom’s Extra Sweet Cereals Bowl

This morning, my eldest,  Angela,  asked for extra sweet breakfast.

She wanted cereals with milk and chocolate syrup.  It’s hard to make them eat in the morning so I gave in with the idea of extra sweet cereals. She helped me to prepare one for her and another bowl for his brother.  I even added more spoons of cereal to each bowl to somehow balance the sweetness and the cereals (or maybe just to lessen my guilt). 

My husband is now all prepped up for work and is running late for a meeting.  We already had breakfast before the kids woke up to take advantage of “us”  time since its really hard to find one when you have 3 little munchkins and no “yaya”. We have to intentionally set time to catch up even just over coffee,  to have a relaxed talk from playful kids (for parents with little kids, you know it’s not easy to focus on one if you’re all on the same table!).

As Wendell is hurrying up to  work, he kissed each one of us goodbye and went straight out of the door. Suddenly I heard Angela cry,  I turned to her and saw the extra sweet cereal mix spilled on the table.
I looked at the mess on the table and I looked at her with irritation. My initial reaction was,
“oh no what happened?!”
Angela just answered me with sobbering voice,
“Mommy yung cereals ko natapon!” (“Mommy my cereals spilled!”).
My irritation level now stepped up to no. 2 because of the mess (and the food, sayang!). I asked a follow-up  question,
“Bakit natapon?”  (Why did it spill?)
and she said
“Eh kasi i want to kiss and love love ko si daddy”.

“Love love” is her term for hug. It turned out that she was trying to run after her dad to hug and kiss him goodbye before he goes.  Angela does this when Wendell and I go out of the house, she wants to be the one to kiss and hug us goodbye. She’s really a sweet girl. 

Now, my irritated self was filled with guilt,  all I just replied to her was

“Oh ok,  go call him before he’s gone.  Shout so he could hear you.”
Fortunately,  Wendell is still in the garage preparing the car, so Angela was able to catch him and give him a kiss and a “love love”  🙂 .
It’s really hard not to get irritated but having kids both test and extend your  patience.
In reality, you have no choice but to extend it.  Being a mom means being able to love even at the most unlovable moment of your child. In this instance, I also learned that our reactions will determine the next sequel of events.  If I reacted otherwise,  it will also end with a different outcome.
Angela returned to the table and asked me sweetly,
“Mommy can we make another bowl for me?”
Down with her sweetness,  I answered,
“Yes, Of course baby.  But next time please be extra careful, okay?”
You know what she said?
“Okay mommy.  I love you!”
This event made me remember one of my Facebook posts months back… (Take note of the caption)
It’s true all the time, that 90% of what happens to you is uncontrollable. But the remaining  10% is up to you. Especially for moms like me, we are our kids fountain of love.
It’s hard to balance our daily emotions given that our kids are always on the look out (we may not notice it,  but sure they are! They are good imitators, too! So we really have to be careful.).
Whatever circumstances we’re at,  may it be at the dining table or at  the cliff of a mountain, with little percentage as it is, the way we respond  will create an impact in our lives and will exceed that uncontrollable 90%.
It’s going to be long term and surely will either inspire or break the next generation: Our children.
So lets be careful with that 10%, ok? 😉


About The Author

Andrea is a full time home maker. When she is not busy taking care of her husband and kids, she goes out giving financial management talks. She is a proud breastfeeding mom for four years running and an avid Oleia Topical Oil user.

Choose to ACT – The Key to Intentional Parenting

Choose to ACT – The Key to Intentional Parenting

Parenting is hard work.

Being a father of just one child, who can barely stand – I am beginning to understand the needs and the obligation of
being a parent. Not only that, but as someone who regularly talks to teenagers, I also realized how important
intentionality is when it comes to parenting.

One sad reality that I have learned by being with kids, teens and even young adults is that biological relationship will not
guarantee a good relationship. So many young adults or even adults today have strained relationship with their parents,
which are for most cases are entirely preventable.

The key to making things happen with our relationship with our children is by being intentional. Are you an intentional
parent? Here are some of the quick questions to ask yourself whether you are truly intentional or not:

1. Who are your children’s best buddies at school? How well do you know their friends?
2. Do you know whether your child has a crush in their school?
3. What are their favorite music, books or things to do?
These questions while very simple strikes a chord to each of us. As parents, we believe that our main priority is to provide
for the material needs of our children. But the truth is that money is not the only thing they need. They need what
parents can offer which is love.

But how can you start building the right foundations to your children? Here are three basic, doable and meaningful things
you can start doing to be an intentional parent: Choose to ACT.

1. Affirmation

Affirmation is more than kind words, it expresses emotional support and encouragement. Whenever
we express our affirmation to our kids, something beautiful is created in their hearts. My baby, which is just six
months old, I believe already asks for affirmation. Every time she holds something new, she looks to me and
waits for my nod before she plays with the thing she has in her hands. Affirmation helps build trust. According
also to Erik Erikson’s Psychosocial development table, a child has needs that needs to be met during every life
stage – and guess what, most of it can be hit if we become more affirmative to our children. I also have heard
personal stories of teenagers who wanted nothing more than to be affirmed. They rebel, they fail to love and
they sometimes get misunderstood. But the truth of the matter is, most of their issues can be resolved by just
the affirming words of their parents.

2. Communication

If relationships between spouses are nurtured through two way communication, how much
more will it be beneficial to father-son or mother-daughter relationships? Take time to listen to our children. They
may be saying their struggles, their fears or worries. Be aware of how they act around you. Communication isn’t
always about words.

3. Time

In a previous article written here, we learned that kids spell love time. Time is a currency that we can
never get back. And when we decide to give it to our children, we are saying that they matter to us more than
they can ever imagine. Start spending time with them more. You may realize that all they wanted is not the
latest gadgets, a bigger allowance, or a boyfriend – but just more time with you.

Choosing to act as an intentional parent will have its cost. Pride needs to be removed and we need to be patient not only
with our kids but also with ourselves.


About The Author

Manuel is a guy who loves books. He enjoys reading and does it whenever he can. If he’s not reading, he spends time with his family and also ministers to teenagers in a local church. He does public speaking and talks about issues concerning the youth and young professionals. An Oleia topical oil user and content contributor.

Heart to Heart – 5 Proven Ways to Keep Your Heart Healthy

Heart to Heart – 5 Proven Ways to Keep Your Heart Healthy

Let’s talk heart to heart.

The reality is that you in your lifetime, you will have relatives that will die because of a heart ailment. According to WHO (2015) – the leading cause of death globally is coronary heart disease. It is a condition where the supply of blood to the heart is narrowed or blocked due to cholesterol. It affects everyone, regardless of income status, geographical location, and age.

One factor that contributed to this epidemic is how we live our lives. Due to our lifestyle choices, many of us fall into this heart trap, slowly putting ourselves into a position where our hearts are out of order and not only us, but the ones closest to us suffers.

But the good news is that this sad ending is preventable. Heart diseases, while deadly is preventable. And what’s better is that the ways to make our hearts healthier are not rigorous, expensive or even life draining. It is in fact the opposite! Let’s look at the 5 proven ways to keep your heart healthy:

Watch your diet

While that may sound like a kill joy, many of the food we eat aren’t really tasty, or even healthy. We choose to eat them because it’s convenient. However, watching your diet will help a lot in order for your heart to stay strong and healthy. Here are some of the foods you can enjoy that your heart will love:

  • Tea – There is no downside to tea. Tea contains catechins which helps to build antioxidants in the body that lowers cholesterol. Fun Fact – it also reduces the risk of cancer. Two birds in one stone.
  • Fiber rich foods – vegetables and whole grain are fiber rich foods, they are healthy and they minimize the risk of getting any bad cholesterol to your heart.
  • Feast on Fish – Fish contains omega 3 fatty acids. This helps your heart by reducing triglycerides in the body and it also helps your heart not skip a beat!
Stop Smoking
Smoking doesn’t really do anything good to our bodies. It literally does no good to us whatsoever. It’s a matter of addiction, and if you want to live long, quit. Get help if you have problems quitting.
Maintain an Active Lifestyle
Most of us work inside cubicles, sitting in the front of the computer and spending hours and hours sitting. While it may look good, since we are not sweating and we do not feel physical fatigue, a sedentary lifestyle will cause more harm than good to our hearts. Start exercising in order to keep your blood flowing and your metabolism up. If you’re busy, you can try walking every time you take a break, park a little bit farther from the office, or just intentionally spend 10 – 15 minutes of walking. It will do wonders for your heart!
Studies show that those who are happier tend to live longer. There are studies that link our emotional behavior and our cardiovascular system. Laughing may make our blood flow and reduce the risk of hardened arteries, but more than that, happiness is truly a wonder drug.
Have you had enough sleep lately? Rest is vital in order for our bodies to keep healthy. Remember this principle, if you don’t take a break – you will break. Sleep at least 6 – 7 hours a day in order to give your body a chance to heal itself and get you ready for the day ahead.

The heart of the matter

You are in control of how healthy your heart can be. Your heart is the centerpiece of your body – keep it healthy and you will surely be able to make moments last forever.



About The Author

To Kris, life is an awfully big adventure so she lives it day by day. For her, we must learn from the past, live with the present and aim for a great future. She is an Oleia user.