Okay, you’ve checked every possible reason why she’s crying. Full tummy? Check. Clean diaper? Check. No fever? Check. So why is your baby still crying?
If you haven’t read on the Reasons Why Babies Cry and How to Soothe Them you may want to start there.
If this crying and wailing happen continuously, one thing will surely follow a crying baby: a frustrated parent. Babies have their own good reasons why they cry but they don’t have the words to tell us what’s wrong, and even the wisest parents can’t read their baby’s mind. Here are some ways you can comfort your baby, even if you don’t know why he’s upset:
Something to suck on
Sucking can steady a baby’s heart rate, relax his stomach, and calm flailing limbs. Offer a pacifier or a finger to clamp onto and let your baby go to town.
Snuggling & swaddling
Newborns like to feel as warm and secure as they did in the womb: Try swaddling your baby in a blanket, wearing your baby, or holding him against your shoulder to re-create that feeling. Some babies find swaddling or cuddling too constrictive and respond better to other forms of comfort such as rhythmic movement or sucking a pacifier.
Music & rhythm
Try playing music, singing a lullaby or your favorite song, and dancing around the room. Experiment with different kinds of music to see what your baby responds to. Some parents found the best way to soothe their little one is to put on some music and dance with him. His body relaxes after about two songs and he even falls asleep sometimes.
The growl of a vacuum cleaner, a sound of a running water, and the likes might not seem very soothing, but many babies are calmed by a steady flow of “white noise” that blocks out other noises – much like the constant whoosh of bodily sounds they heard in the womb.
Sometimes simply opening the front or back door and stepping outside with your baby stops the crying instantly. If it works, savor the moment: Look around, look up at the sky, talk to your baby about the world around your home – whether it’s a quiet cul-de-sac or a busy city street.
Like fresh air, warm water can soothe and put a stop to your baby’s tears.
For a change from a bath, try holding your baby in your arms under a gently running shower. Don’t push it if your baby doesn’t like the noise or splashing water, but some babies really take to it. Just make sure your shower is slip-proof.
The movement involved in being carried in your arms or a carrier may be enough. Other ways to get your baby in motion: a rocking chair, swing, or bouncy seat; setting your baby in a car seat on the dryer while it’s on (don’t walk away, though – the dryer’s vibrations can cause the seat to move and fall off!); a ride in the stroller or car.
Most babies love to be touched, so a massage might be just the thing. For a better and more relaxing baby massage, use a massage oil that is safe and specifically made for babies. Oleia Topical oil is 100% natural and safe for babies. It comes in relaxing scents of Lavander and Chamomile that your babies will surely love. Don’t worry about not knowing the perfect movements — as long as they’re gentle and slow, they should bring comfort
Give yourself a break
A crying baby who can’t easily be soothed puts a lot of stress on parents. Thankfully, as your baby gets older, he’ll be better able to soothe himself and much of the crying will stop.
In the meantime, don’t feel guilty about taking care of yourself as well as your baby. It’ll make you a more patient and loving parent. When you’re reaching your limit, try these tips:
- Put your baby down in a safe place and let him cry for a while.
- Call a friend or relative and ask for advice
- Let someone you trust take over for a while.
- Put on quiet music to distract yourself.
- Take deep breaths.
- Remind yourself that crying in itself won’t hurt your baby – and he may just need the release.
- Find a mantra. It can be helpful to provide perspective, comfort, and energy to keep going. (i.e. “My baby will outgrow this phase.”, “All will be well”)
- Whatever you do, don’t express your frustration by shaking your baby.
- Relax by massaging Oleia Topical oil on your head and strained back. It helps calm worry and alleviate stress– fast and naturally.
About The Author
Andrea is a full time home maker. When she is not busy taking care of her husband and kids, she goes out giving financial management talks. She is a proud breastfeeding mom for four years running and an avid Oleia Topical Oil user.